Well I've been Online dating for a few months now. I've met up with several guys and I am learning that dating in today's world is more complicated then when I was younger. Maybe it's because I am doing it Online and it's so different then meeting someone the old fashion way.
Most of the guys I meet in person, I end up having no sparks that fly or no connection. I chat with these guys Online and I hit it off and actually seem to have chemistry with them when we chat, but then when I meet them in person...nothing. I can't say that for all the guys I meet. There are 3 guys that I did feel some kind of chemistry with, but the others...nothing. I've met about 9 guys so fare.
The 3 guys that I liked, well one of them was too shy to kiss me or do anything...like ridiculously shy. He could text me all sorts of things, but when we met, he was paralysed with shyness. He was only in town for a few months for his job and got really busy with work, so we didn't meet up again. We texted each other for a few weeks until I finally told him to stop.
The other guy I had a connection with, we ended up kissing on the first date. But by the second date, that feeling kinda fizzled out. I left that date not wanting to see him again. That was 2 weeks ago. He has contacted me again but we have not been able to hook up. I'm willing to give a 3rd date a try. Then I will know if there is anything.
Now the guy that I had the most connection with, I ended up seeing for some time now. He was not looking for a serious relationship, so our relationship was casual. I would see him about once or twice a week and we would text everyday. But he did not want a relationship, so I ended up still staying Online and dating other guys at the same time.
So after about 6 weeks of this, he told me that he was reconciling with his old girlfriend and that he was going to try and make it work between them. They had been separated for 2 years. I was shocked and heartbroken. Even though our relationship was casual, we were developing feelings for each other. I knew the score coming into this type of relationship with him and I wished him good luck with her.
So about a month after that, he sends me a text saying that he would like to hook up with me again. I thought that it probably did not work out with his girlfriend, but no, the girlfriend was still in the picture but he said that he misses me and still wants me in his life. So this is where I am with him right now. I'm torn between being the other woman and wanting to be with him. We connect on a physical level that I have not connected with in the past before. It's hard to say no to him. I'm really torn. I know the answer should be so clear...stay away. But it's hard when I have such a strong chemistry with this guy. I can just hear a bunch of women saying that I would be such a bitch to be with him. I wish it was that simple to decide.
Not sure I am sold on Online dating. You meet a lot more people this way but it's not quality, it's quantity. So right now, I'm looking at it as a way to broaden my circle of acquaintances. It allows me to get out and meet new people. But my expectations that I will meet my soul mate thru online dating is quickly dwindling away. I don't have a chance to meet new people in my normal day to day life, so this is a good alternative for now.
